tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.comments2023-04-14T09:48:22.774-04:00Mom on ReservePhehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10504878141299890548noreply@blogger.comBlogger85125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-91525212464010664102015-01-22T06:58:49.726-05:002015-01-22T06:58:49.726-05:00Thanks for your related posts!
Most Gun safe Revie...Thanks for your related posts!<br />Most Gun safe Reviews involved in self-inflicted and unintentional firearm injuries (that is, in suicides and accidents) came either from the victim's home or the home of a friend or relativ. <a href="http://gunsafereviewsnar.com/" rel="nofollow">DinhHanh</a>.gun safeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11723252148353912687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-90253334940695379152014-10-12T08:12:57.241-04:002014-10-12T08:12:57.241-04:00Thanks for this funny but a deep thought post, I h...Thanks for this funny but a deep thought post, I have never read like this one before. Thanks for sharing with us. Great post, keep posting like this.<br /><br /><a href="www.crucialstart.com" rel="nofollow">Crucial Start - Preconception Pregnancy Planning</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14107757103265648616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-91324348709007058192014-10-04T13:16:30.908-04:002014-10-04T13:16:30.908-04:00Hi, Thanks for this blog. I would like to tell abo...Hi, Thanks for this blog. I would like to tell about Female fertility diet. It plays an important role in the wellness of your pregnancy periods. It helps you to keep physically fit and also provide strength to your future child. It helps you to be sure about the diet you are following is healthy for you with every aspect.Female fertility diethttp://www.crucialstart.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-82521258748857327962010-10-17T00:37:05.193-04:002010-10-17T00:37:05.193-04:00I'm with you - but I would like to believe tha...I'm with you - but I would like to believe that most kids aren't quite "that" helpless. Though, I'm not really sure, since I haven't raised a teenager in a while.<br /><br />I think today's "parenting" discussions are so focused on "childhood" stuff that we sometimes forget that our goal is to raise adults. (After all, there's money in stretching childhood out.) Also, many don't realize that kids are most teachable (on practical matters, at least) before they are 11 or so - because hormones make people stupid. So it is counterproductive to have kids focus mainly on self-centered "kid" stuff like soccer, homework, and video games when they are in elementary school, and then expect their home ec skills to kick in when they are in middle / high school / college.<br /><br />I do hire a monthly maid service and I don't cook much. However, I am committed to raise adults and have them trained in all the basics as early as possible. 3yo has cooked a couple of things herself, ties shoes, etc. 4yo keeps her things neat and organized, and keeps track of schedules. Most kids have the ability to do things for themselves, so I don't see the attraction of holding them back.<br /><br />Oh, and I'll bet the kid who couldn't hang clothes on a hanger or use a can opener could handle plenty of complexity if it was for something fun. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-63338375816359750612010-10-04T21:29:49.562-04:002010-10-04T21:29:49.562-04:00Well (she said gently), you were going to have the...Well (she said gently), you were going to have these conversations with your daughter anyway. Whether violence happens down the street or half a world away, it does happen, and it's our job to try to help our kids deal with it even when we can't explain it ourselves. <br /><br />Personally, I think there's no such thing as a completely safe place - look at what's happened in leafy suburbs like Winchester and Hopkinton. All I can do is what you said - try to teach my kids to be safe, and be smart.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10280288778530721329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-85128961321453422772010-09-21T14:31:01.651-04:002010-09-21T14:31:01.651-04:00Aww.
As an adoptive mom, my experience wasn't...Aww.<br /><br />As an adoptive mom, my experience wasn't exactly like that. I felt that my kids didn't see me as anything special, just another intruder into their lives. I probably kissed them lots of times, and maybe they thought that was kinda cool, but I don't think they felt "love" from that particular act. I think it was weeks if not months before either of my daughters saw me as someone who was to have a deep and ever-lasting, loving bond with them. But, it did come, and like all good things, it was worth the wait.<br /><br />I had a lot of ideas about how it would be like to become an adoptive mom. Most of them were a bit over-enthusiastic. For example, my kids could say "ma-ma" for a long time before they actually called me "Mama." Most of what I felt in the beginning was exhaustion, disappointment in my inability to understand or communicate with my kids, and endless hope that things would get better soon.<br /><br />I hope the above doesn't sound too negative. Adoption is a beautiful thing, and I'm so, so glad that I did it, and my kids are happy and loving. It's just that the beginning is not what many people imagine it to be. At least, it wasn't for me. (Then again, my kids were closer to a year old, so that makes a difference.)<br /><br />Thanks for sharing these thoughts with us! - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-17166482803129649022010-09-18T00:04:33.512-04:002010-09-18T00:04:33.512-04:00What worked for me with poop was getting to know w...What worked for me with poop was getting to know when they were likely to do it, and planning to have them on or near the potty at that time. If there was poop in the pants when we got to the potty, I made a show of putting the poop in the toilet, so as far as they knew, poop always went in the toilet. (And against "modern wisdom," I didn't pretend that I thought poop in pants was just fine.)<br /><br />I kept a little bucket of (washable) toys/books next to the potties, and a store of books in the restroom. For a fair stretch of their toddlerhood (sometime between ages 1 and 2), we had storytime in the bathroom, LOL - several times a day. They even drank their sippies of milk in the bathroom since milk generated a desire to go. For a short while I gave small treats - 1 for being clean/dry just before sitting on the pot and 1 for actually going in the pot. I also timed my own bathroom visits to coincide with theirs, so there was no mystery or fear about any of it.<br /><br />Well, that's about all I've got. Good luck - I'm not a fan of poop either. Looking forward to the day they figure out how to wipe properly so I can move on to more intellectual things. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-33025475744849463682010-09-12T21:00:21.943-04:002010-09-12T21:00:21.943-04:00Interesting - I could see why you never thought of...Interesting - I could see why you never thought of it. I suppose that statistically the risk is a tiny bit higher, but at the same time, the people in charge of the kids are a lot more likely to know what to do to mitigate the risk. So on balance, the difference in danger is probably extremely small. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-28753911390542668482010-09-07T22:35:53.907-04:002010-09-07T22:35:53.907-04:00Lylah: That's a really beautiful analogy. Like...Lylah: That's a really beautiful analogy. Like I posted on my personal LJ a little while ago, I want to laugh and cry at the same time.<br /><br />I want to curl up under a pile of my uniforms and boots and smell the field and suck my thumb like a child.<br /><br />I want to revel in the new freedom too. <br /><br />But your analogy is most fitting. Thank you.Phehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10504878141299890548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-61304628177894291822010-09-07T21:21:55.245-04:002010-09-07T21:21:55.245-04:00In sewing, there's a really important type of ...In sewing, there's a really important type of stitch called a back tack. It's created when you sew a seam forward, then a little bit back on itself, and then forward again -- a stich taken backward in order to keep an entire long line of work from falling apart.<br /><br />We do them in life, too. It's just harder to accept, because 1) we can feel the backward step, but not necessarily the securing of the seam and 2) in our careers, especially as women, even more so as parents, sometimes the backwards steps feel like defeat instead of reinforcement. <br /><br />You'll move forward again!LMAlphonsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01123069425655953518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-27949724731433214272010-08-31T16:59:04.008-04:002010-08-31T16:59:04.008-04:00Glad it isn't Leukemia as well. You are brave ...Glad it isn't Leukemia as well. You are brave for sharing this. Thank You<br /><br />Sandy Avila, Director of Operations at Prepped & Polished<br />www.preppedandpolished.com/blogAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-44129982814274922672010-08-20T17:57:15.686-04:002010-08-20T17:57:15.686-04:00Wow, I'm so glad it isn't Leukemia! My ba...Wow, I'm so glad it isn't Leukemia! My baby sister was suspected of Leukemia for a while, and it was quite the roller-coaster - but she also was cleared of it in the end. And after having every illness known to vaccinated man by age 5, she was extremely healthy during her school years. We still don't really know what made her so "sickly," but she ended up doing just fine. (If anything, it gave her super stamina.) I hope that is how it works out for Amelie, too.<br /><br />Glad to hear that you have made a life decision that gives you relief during this trying time. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-55013060040430236622010-08-19T21:32:55.740-04:002010-08-19T21:32:55.740-04:00Still here! Glad to have you back, and relieved to...Still here! Glad to have you back, and relieved to hear about A...LMAlphonsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01123069425655953518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-9637918562483191642010-08-18T20:51:00.961-04:002010-08-18T20:51:00.961-04:00So happy A is going better. Kiddo sure knows how t...So happy A is going better. Kiddo sure knows how to worry people! :)Flannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04266835465042965156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-88365877302240212162010-08-10T19:56:05.194-04:002010-08-10T19:56:05.194-04:00I'm so sorry you're going through this Phe...I'm so sorry you're going through this Phe.Juliehttp://www.ourmomspot.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-20091736556608945522010-07-31T12:27:22.002-04:002010-07-31T12:27:22.002-04:00Wow, I hope whatever is happening with your daught...Wow, I hope whatever is happening with your daughter is treatable and she will be OK! Will see you when you return. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-4550227334573089202010-07-15T11:04:46.564-04:002010-07-15T11:04:46.564-04:00You and A. and M. were very much on my mind as I d...You and A. and M. were very much on my mind as I drove to work this morning... I hope you get some answers to. Love to you guys, and ping me if there's anything I can do (even if it's just listen). XO.LMAlphonsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01123069425655953518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-29279746997757031152010-06-28T20:21:11.234-04:002010-06-28T20:21:11.234-04:00Anonymous: I'm sorry that this piece struck su...Anonymous: I'm sorry that this piece struck such a nerve for you, but I believe that if you re-read what I wrote, in full, you'll probably find that the scenarios I put forth to illustrate the point had nothing to do with working mothers (WAHMs especially) and more to do with those who simply ignore their kids to talk. It's why I closed with this:<br /><br />"I know that not everyone can turn it off. Many people's jobs demand that they be connected 24/7. Heck, even mine takes me from home more than I'd like and requires that my phone is on 24/7. But that doesn't mean I have to be on Facebook, Twitter, Blogger, the phone bitching about what he said/she said OMGcanyoubelieveit?! at the expense of my priorities..."<br /><br />Thank you for reading though and thanks for your input.Phehttp://momonreserve.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-23902753377975985742010-06-28T13:20:56.428-04:002010-06-28T13:20:56.428-04:00I think Phe's actual question was "How do...I think Phe's actual question was "How do you keep engaged?" not "Am I the best parent in the world?" or "Do you think I am writing this about you?" <br /><br />I keep engaged by trying to focus on my kids when I'm not at work, but sometimes it saves my sanity to send out a quick tweet, update my status on Facebook, or even take (or make) a phone call during "their" time. The flood of support I get when I need it at those times gets me through many a tough day. But there's a huge difference between that and the scenarios described in this post.LMAlphonsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01123069425655953518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-84100968487182546052010-06-27T14:47:33.049-04:002010-06-27T14:47:33.049-04:00There's a fine line between blogging your opin...There's a fine line between blogging your opinions and coming across as "I'M THE BEST MOTHER IN THE WORLD FOR A, B, & C REASONS AND MOTHERS WHO AREN'T LIKE ME ARE TERRIBLE PEOPLE." You may have crossed that line this time. Please keep in mind that some of your readers know that they're not perfect parents and are OK with taking shortcuts in the interest of staying sane. Your observations may hit too close to home with some of your readership and offend people. While I'm glad you feel like you're in touch with your toddler (and, you only have one child. I don't think you should criticize anyone who has 2 or more children) don't you think that ~blogging~ about being "connected" to something external from your children is a bit hypocritical? I know you'll justify it by saying you only blog/facebook/etc when she's sleeping or at school but some mothers don't have that opportunity. I multitask online classes with 2 kids and if anyone misconstrued my internet activity around my children as social networking I would understand, but making assumptions on other parents makes you look pretentious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-5108803897129364982010-06-24T01:59:18.283-04:002010-06-24T01:59:18.283-04:00I pretty much agree with you. The only thing I...I pretty much agree with you. The only thing I'd say is that it's good for children to hear some of their parents' phone conversations and other adult conversations. It clues them in to what the real world is about. That said, I'm not a fan of the phone and I might intentionally talk on it around my kids twice a month. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-54384245776243715022010-06-17T18:11:48.652-04:002010-06-17T18:11:48.652-04:00I think that was when my short-term memory started...I think that was when my short-term memory started to go . . . or something like that.<br /><br />Seriously, one thing that helps is to appreciate the way a child thinks - specifically, how quickly she "forgets" the bad and moves eagerly into happier things. That's what moms need to do, too. Yes, make sure learning occurs, but move on as soon as you can. Certainly don't try to make sense of these behaviors - they are indeed hormone-influenced and similar to pre-teen illogic. Another tactic is to think about how funny this would be in a sit-com, LOL. Actually, that's how I've lived through a lot of adult stresses . . . .<br /><br />In terms of learning, I have found it is more effective to tell the child what you expect "before" behavioral triggers arise. Such as, we're going into the store and you need to ___. Remember last time you ___ and got in trouble and we had to leave right away? Do you want that to happen? No? Good, neither do I, so let's follow the rules." - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-79137451683930403992010-06-12T10:35:52.477-04:002010-06-12T10:35:52.477-04:00I don't know if there's anything I can do ...I don't know if there's anything I can do but listen, or take a walk with you or just be around for you, but please give a shout if there's any way I can relieve even the slightest bit of pressure for you.<br /><br />HUGS! L.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-8286174301751084232010-06-11T21:10:08.168-04:002010-06-11T21:10:08.168-04:00You're missing a reaction: Sorry to hear that,...You're missing a reaction: Sorry to hear that, how can I help?Andrew Ynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5317019988667819698.post-58020466233240934972010-06-05T00:35:03.650-04:002010-06-05T00:35:03.650-04:00When my kids first started preschool, it was like ...When my kids first started preschool, it was like pulling teeth to get them to tell me anything about their day. I had to be satisifed with one-word answers when I asked them what they had for lunch and stuff like that. Clearly the school scene was complex, but they weren't sure how to verbalize it. Now, 9 months later, they talk a little more about it, but not much. This was an adjustment for me, because previously, I pretty much knew every time my kid hiccoughed.<br /><br />I've always believed in giving kids space when they need it. But, being an adoptive mom, I had to initiate interaction more when they were younger, because they didn't automatically see me as their "go-to" person otherwise. Now, I love that they can verbalize when they do and don't want me in their emotional space. (Of course, a lot of it is drama.)<br /><br />Verbal ability is such a blessing. My kids were mostly quiet at 2. There were various good reasons for that, and now, a year later, they are the biggest blabbermouths. I'm not sure how much they talk at school, though. I think they save most of their "big questions and observations" for me. But anyhoo, being good communicators means having a lot fewer frustrations, which is nice for everyone. My kids will quietly say "I'm angry at you because ___," versus acting out. I'll take it. - SKLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com